Sometimes you are in a situation where someone’s behavior is totally unacceptable to you. What to do?
You have many options in your own behavior. In order to feel good about your choice, it must be true to your own values and beliefs and often, you own values and beliefs are in conflict with each other. As long as there is conflict within yourself, you are not going to feel good about the choices.
So, to start dealing with this, you begin by identifying the conflicts within yourself, thinking them through and resolving them in your own mind. This may take some time, and it may feel like a wrestling match, but it is necessary that you become familiar with and clear about your own priorities.
Ultimately, your behavior in the unacceptable situation will be determined by your prioritized values. You can’t take action until you understand this about yourself.