One last thing about dealing with someone `whose behavior offends you: If unpleasant things happen in public, like at a party, one reason that might keep you from speaking up is that your values give you a set of behaviors that are appropriate in public.
Your values tell you to be polite, look the other way, and be nice in a group setting. However, these might not be the values of the other person.
They might value ignoring the affect they are having on the group, putting their desires before all others, and having “fun” at all costs.
When you put your values up against theirs in public, you are doomed to be miserable. You “have” to stay quiet, while “they” can do whatever rude thing they want. It is certainly possible for you to use a different set of values in such a setting.
Try telling the truth, asking that your desires and space be respected, and expecting self- responsible behaviors from others.
If you think about it, you have a huge assortment of values to draw from. In awkward settings, draw on the values that serve you the best.