People really just want to be known and seen for who they really are.
This is why, to really know someone, sometimes you need to listen for the meaning of their words with your heart and not your ears.
Let the vibration of their intent inform you of their meaning, even if their words don’t seem to fit.
It is a learned skill to be congruent with your words and your intent, and some people just aren’t very good at this skill.
However, if you hear them with your heart, you can understand their true meaning